Friday, May 23, 2003

My husband and I are leaving after I get off work to go see my mom, sister and her family. Hopefully I will get off of work early. We are surprising her.

Well as everyone is probably aware we go through struggles in our life. One of my struggles is confrontation. I hate it. I can write all day but put me in front of someone and I clam up.

One issue I need to discuss with my mother but I tend to clam up is about my sisters children. She just isn’t good with kids as my sister and I learned when we were young. To me kids will do things kids do. They sure won’t learn anything if you yell at them all the time. My mom does that. She doesn’t like them to touch her stuff; she hates the way they eat. My sister tries to discipline them and if they don’t correct it the first time then my mom takes over. Its really sad but my nephew doesn’t even want to be around his grandmother. But I can’t talk to my mom about it. I cringe thinking about telling my mom. I have forgiven my mom for a lot of stuff from the past but my sister can’t. I by no means am perfect but forgiveness is very important to me. And if I tell my mom how I feel I think that would make her relationship with my sister and her kids better however I think my mom would be too hard on herself. She is the type to say to herself “I’m so stupid, I never do anything right.” I don’t want her to feel that way and that is another thing she shouldn’t do. I had to break that off of my self. I was beginning to get like that.

Your prayer is much needed.